Three Tips to Avoid the Social Media Trap


By comparing our lives with the lives of people we follow on social media we fall into the comparison trap. So how do we avoid the social media comparison trap? Here are three tips to helps us get started.




I recently participated on a panel about friendship in the digital age with other authors at SEEK19, a Catholic conference, and the workshop attendees shared their struggles with comparing themselves to others on social media. One college student shared how when she sees how accomplished the individuals that she follows on social media are, she immediately starts to experience self-doubt regarding her own skills and progress in the field she is studying. She explained that she starts to feel discouraged and thinks that she will never reach the levels she aspires to. I think it is safe to say that many of us have felt the same way at some point in our lives.

While most of us have learned to recognize that we see a filtered and aspirational view of the lives of the people we follow on social media, it is still so easy to fall into the comparison trap. When you fall into the comparison trap, dissatisfaction creeps in and suddenly your house looks messier, your family seems less wonderful, and your self-worth takes a nosedive. So how do you avoid the social media comparison trap? Here are three tips to help you get started.


Tip #1: Don’t Cut Out All Social Media

First of all, the answer is not completely cutting out social media. Social media can be an important form of communication and connection when used in a helpful way. Avoiding it all together means that you are cutting yourself off from social connections that might not have been possible without that medium. It is still possible to use social media in a positive and healthy way.


Tip #2: Purge Accounts That Do Not Help

Secondly, it is helpful to reflect on how you use social media. Are you using it as a source of connection and a place for uplifting and inspirational content? Or is it a source of division and dissatisfaction? If it is the latter, this is likely contributing to your comparison trap experience.

For example, if you are following accounts that showcase an impossibly curated lifestyle full of constant travel, lavish meals, a dream job, and an expensive wardrobe, you might find yourself constantly comparing yourself to that lifestyle. When this comparison starts to trigger dissatisfaction and even resentment towards the life you have, social media is no longer an uplifting place for you.

To combat this, take the time to do a little spring cleaning on your social media accounts. Go through the accounts you follow and ask yourself, “Does this account encourage me to become a more authentic person or does it hold me back from becoming more authentic?” If it is helping you, keep it! If it isn’t helping you, hit the unfollow button. For example, if you struggle with body image, it might be helpful to follow accounts that support self-confidence and avoid those accounts that promote unhealthy eating and exercising habits. Or, if you are struggling with self-confidence, try to follow accounts that foster collaboration and community and avoid those accounts that breed competition.


Tip #3: Check Your Mindset

Another helpful strategy is to reflect on your mindset when you use social media. If you find yourself falling into the comparison trap, you might be using social media with a scarcity mindset. In other words, when you see someone else being successful, you feel threatened because it seems like another person’s success means you have failed.

Having a scarcity mindset means that you believe there is a finite amount of “success” in the world and this fosters a sense of competition. A growth mindset, on the other hand, is focused not on competition but on community and collaboration. With a growth mindset, it is easy to be happy for the successes of others and to be inspired and motivated by them instead of threatened by them.

With simple strategies like these, social media can become an uplifting place and a source of inspiration and growth instead of a source of dissatisfaction and resentment. Remember, you are in control of the way you use social media and you are free to use it in a way that is the most beneficial for you. Free yourself from the comparison trap and you will make room for experiencing joy and gratitude in your real and unfiltered life.   Published in Mind & Spirit website

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