Let me tell you a little story about a man’s love for someone special in his life. When they first met, there was no touching. He had every opportunity to hold her hand, but for him, she was fragile and “hands off.” They were loving each moment they could have together. Their love story started with a “good morning” here and a “good night” there. He yearned for her to be treated right. To him, she needs time and caring affection to bloom into the beautiful rare orchid that she is. He wanted her to be well taken care of. He respected her that much. He wanted to give her the respect she deserved for the lady she was. He saw her at her best and stood by her at her worst. He would smile the whole day after receiving a message from her.
WHAT IS TRUE LOVE?
Years passed. They would always communicate and even have long night conversations. No sexual advances, subtly putting his arm around her with a stretch, yawning while watching a movie, or going for the first base. The man wanted to kiss her so much on the lips, but he waited. And waited. He wanted her to be ready. You see, the girl he loves is a virgin. If she could value herself that much and know her worth, he wanted to become the one for her in receiving her wedding night present for him. He did not want to take advantage of her vulnerable state of mind. He never wanted to pressure her. Most of all, he wanted to marry her first. He longed to become her husband before he could be bequeathed with her most prized virginity. Isn’t that a nice dream that an honorable man could ask for? Call it real true love. The best dream!
More often than not when a couple gets married, the bride has already engaged in pre-marital sex with her previous relationships other than the groom. There is a big gap and a higher percentage of pre-marital sex than post-marital sex. Statistics study shows that less than 10% are virgin brides. The rate lowers with every decade.
Some people would even ridicule those who are still virgins by saying they are prudes. They like promoting one-night stands, or their way of thinking is to have sex on the first date. Is it wrong to keep one’s virtue? No. Then why are there people who applaud those who become pregnant at an early and young age without the means to support their family? They stop their schooling because of it. This is where the need for sex education and family planning with responsible parenthood comes in. It is sad, but those who value their virginity are ostracized and even looked down upon.
Sex should never be treated irresponsibly. It is not just an activity. Sex is never a random thing. Somebody was telling me as a joke that it’s “Wham bam! Thank you, Ma’am!” If you see it like that, where’s your dignity? It might be tough to live with, but I learned in Religion class (Theology) a long time ago that the body should be treated as a holy temple. You cannot just waste it away by mistreating or abusing it. Relationships should not be like clothing you easily wear, changing it every day.
We might be in disbelief that there are still men willing to wait until they pledge their marital vows before God, but there are. When you can find a man with the love and patience to care for you that way, it will abundantly be filled with many blessings for the couple.
A TEMPLE OF THE HOLY SPIRIT
To discuss in detail, according to 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 “he asks, “Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have received from God?” This Biblical verse talks about how we should avoid sexual immorality. Even if people might say that pre-marital sex is the “IN thing” and that post-marital sex is “taboo,” dare to travel the path less taken by others and be blessed with the right choices you make in life no matter how unpopular it may seem.
The Holy Mother, the Blessed Virgin Mary was not only chosen because she was a virgin in human anatomy. She was selected because she was pure of heart and mind. As known, Mama Mary was born without sin. Her character spoke highly; thus, God chose her to become the Mother of the Savior, Jesus Christ. Yet, Joseph dared not to touch her and gave her the respect amidst the backlashing she was receiving. He still did what is right first to become her spouse.
Making love should be considered an intimate and special moment between couples. Post-Marital Sex? Valued. Is it worth the wait? Yes.